I've gotten quite busy and lazy these days, school's homeworks and study stuffs. Long time I didn't update my blog already, but who cares anyway? All those thoughts and experiences I've always wanted to write down has gone, or forgotten to be precise. Kinda regret for being lazy though.
Ever since my birthday has passed, I'm officially 18! And, I've decided to take Form 6 as my further studies. I've gained new perspective of people and things since I've started working. I came to realize that my interpersonal skills sucks, but hey, I'm an introvert! I'm usually quite shy, but trying to hide it. Sometimes I can't stand people who make joke of people, especially myself, but then I've learnt that play along with their joke might be the best thing to do to avoid further embarrsasment. Anyway, that's part of interpersonal thingy.
Another thing is, I felt most people keep quiet around me. Are they don't like me? Or have I done something wrong? I dunno, maybe I sucks at conversing with people, and they felt that they have nothing to say to me. But when they're around my friends, they are talking and laughing. I started to feel jealous and envy. I felt dumb... But what to do?
Studies, particularly science subjects, need time to understand and memorize. But then in CLHS, our fellow classmates are very indomitable, in the way that they don't want to lose. I felt very pressured that, why they are so quick and smart, even though that they did not pay attention in class... Maybe I'm "kia su" also...
Anyway, the invisible crushing force I'm talking about is pressure. I'm very pressured lately, mostly from studies, and relationships, especailly jealousy and envy, some pressure are without a reason... I hope someone would help me overcome jealousy and envy...
Anyhow, I like to write a lot, and probably no one would want to read it anyway. But in conclusion, I started to felt pressured lately, and my interpersonal skills still very amateurish, which brings more stress. In the end, I'm the one who is responsible for myself, and the stress are created by myself, only me alone can solve it right?
Ps: Cheers! Hope you guys don't stressed yourself out like I do...
Friday, August 27, 2010
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Praise or criticism?
I've been pressured by many things lately... Mainly because of my studies, can't grasp what the teachers are teaching... But set aside that, how's life goin', folks?
Still the same matter bothering me... Interaction between people, how to communicate with people and many of these related stuffs. We humans are really complicated aren't we? Emotions, thoughts and relations, they're simple but hard to predict and understand aren't they?
I like to listen to people, understand them, it's really interesting. I guess people want and need attention aren't they? Some of them work hard, trying to be the best, or be super annoying, to make sure everyone know them.
But my point is, no matter how lonely you want to be, you still need to socialize to survive izin't it? In my opinion, everyone is different, but we're still the same. We want attention from others, that's why we make friends. True friends are hard to came by, treasure them if you ever have one, it's a very precious gem in our life.
Most of us are the same, suffering, enduring the stress of life. We need some time to relax ourselves, detach from the stress and business of the "real-world". When a friend is depressed or having some bad experiences, offer him/her your time, listen to them, just listen attentively, advice is not necessary needed, you're not a counsellor here, you're a friend. Try to understand them, understand how they feel and their perspective towards things. It will deepen the friendship, and this made you and your friend feels extraodinary.
Some people are mean critics, they judge people and give criticism and insults, at almost everything you do. You'll never do things right with this kind of people around. They are everywhere, there's no way to avoid them. They make fun at people by insulting, criticise people when they've done something wrong. They monopolize every conversation, probe at everyone's relationship, and pretend to be the "know-it-all" person. Actually, these are not a really bad things when done occasionally, but some people do it regularly. They made your BAD day WORST. They destroy your self-esteem and confidence. They made you feel worthless. They disagree with everything you stated. I really hope they could just shut up, just pretend they didn't see you.
Contrarily, why don't people learn how to give people compliment, and give crticism in a good way? I believe that praising, even for a little things the people do, or just their traits, would brighten their day. Of course, it's not praising perfunctorily, it's sincere, not just to make someone feels good, but they deserve it. Complimenting people would make them feel better, and it shows that you care about them. You want them to do better, you still point out their mistakes, but in a good way, not by insulting. Look at the good side of people, give compliment for their good and point out their bad so that they be aware of it, and improve themselves. Praising sincerely it's like magic, it makes other feels good and they might like you and be your friends too. Praising also increase others self-esteem and confidence, which is very important in our life.
I know I like to write a lot, but summing up everything, I hope you can give compliment to someone when they done something nice instead of insults, especially towards your friends. Listen to your friend actively, don't be the counsellor or the "know-it-all" guy the keep giving advice of some sort. Help your friend whenever you can, they would do the same too, if they value the friendship.
Well, I'll stop now, have a nice day guys!
Ps: I really hope that person could be my friend...
Still the same matter bothering me... Interaction between people, how to communicate with people and many of these related stuffs. We humans are really complicated aren't we? Emotions, thoughts and relations, they're simple but hard to predict and understand aren't they?
I like to listen to people, understand them, it's really interesting. I guess people want and need attention aren't they? Some of them work hard, trying to be the best, or be super annoying, to make sure everyone know them.
But my point is, no matter how lonely you want to be, you still need to socialize to survive izin't it? In my opinion, everyone is different, but we're still the same. We want attention from others, that's why we make friends. True friends are hard to came by, treasure them if you ever have one, it's a very precious gem in our life.
Most of us are the same, suffering, enduring the stress of life. We need some time to relax ourselves, detach from the stress and business of the "real-world". When a friend is depressed or having some bad experiences, offer him/her your time, listen to them, just listen attentively, advice is not necessary needed, you're not a counsellor here, you're a friend. Try to understand them, understand how they feel and their perspective towards things. It will deepen the friendship, and this made you and your friend feels extraodinary.
Some people are mean critics, they judge people and give criticism and insults, at almost everything you do. You'll never do things right with this kind of people around. They are everywhere, there's no way to avoid them. They make fun at people by insulting, criticise people when they've done something wrong. They monopolize every conversation, probe at everyone's relationship, and pretend to be the "know-it-all" person. Actually, these are not a really bad things when done occasionally, but some people do it regularly. They made your BAD day WORST. They destroy your self-esteem and confidence. They made you feel worthless. They disagree with everything you stated. I really hope they could just shut up, just pretend they didn't see you.
Contrarily, why don't people learn how to give people compliment, and give crticism in a good way? I believe that praising, even for a little things the people do, or just their traits, would brighten their day. Of course, it's not praising perfunctorily, it's sincere, not just to make someone feels good, but they deserve it. Complimenting people would make them feel better, and it shows that you care about them. You want them to do better, you still point out their mistakes, but in a good way, not by insulting. Look at the good side of people, give compliment for their good and point out their bad so that they be aware of it, and improve themselves. Praising sincerely it's like magic, it makes other feels good and they might like you and be your friends too. Praising also increase others self-esteem and confidence, which is very important in our life.
I know I like to write a lot, but summing up everything, I hope you can give compliment to someone when they done something nice instead of insults, especially towards your friends. Listen to your friend actively, don't be the counsellor or the "know-it-all" guy the keep giving advice of some sort. Help your friend whenever you can, they would do the same too, if they value the friendship.
Well, I'll stop now, have a nice day guys!
Ps: I really hope that person could be my friend...
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Hug, please?
Have you ever wondered, when is the last time you're being hugged by someone you really care about? Your friends, partner and family members, parents especially. For me, I really can't remember the last time I've been hugged, and never hug or being hugged by someone after I've started to going to kindergarten...
Well... From my observation, I've found out that teens now rarely or never give a hug to their parents. Why? I dunno... Cause' I also never hug my parents or brothers consciously... Maybe I might feel awkward and weird... Maybe our culture contribute to this phenomenon...
Sometimes, I have the urge to hug my friend who is especially down or depressed. You know, I really feel bad for doing nothing while you know that your friend needs comfort... I like to listen to people, and understand them, that's the way I make friends. I really wanted to hug them, but I'm afraid that they would feel weird, or feel even more uncomfortable because I'm super skinny...
Some people think that hugging someone means you love them, and that's right! But some people often percive this as only lovers can hug each other. That's why when 2 guys hug each other, they would be 'gay'. Haha, maybe they are, so what? This might be another reason why people don't hug each other, when they really wanted to do, because they don't want misunderstanding, or maybe alienated by other people...
Well, whatever it is, I think hugging is really good! I mean hug with compassion and affection or full with warmth and love, not that superficial or just-for-fun hug. To me, hugging is a way to express and show that you care, you love someone. It's something that words can't discribe, the affections and feelings. Hugging are also proven therapeutic, mentally and physically. And they feels good too~ And hugging not necessarily sexual, although it's used in that way, but the purpose is still the same though.
But why people are not practicing it, given that It brings much benifits. Maybe because it's not as socially acceptable, most people are oversensitive, especially in Asian cultures. But I guess... Just do what you want, but never harm others.
A brief but compassionate hug won't hurt right?
I'll stop for now, after writing so much... I'll give someone a big hug someday, and I'm also hoping someone I cared would give me a hug...
Ps: I guess chubby people are more cuddly~
Well... From my observation, I've found out that teens now rarely or never give a hug to their parents. Why? I dunno... Cause' I also never hug my parents or brothers consciously... Maybe I might feel awkward and weird... Maybe our culture contribute to this phenomenon...
Sometimes, I have the urge to hug my friend who is especially down or depressed. You know, I really feel bad for doing nothing while you know that your friend needs comfort... I like to listen to people, and understand them, that's the way I make friends. I really wanted to hug them, but I'm afraid that they would feel weird, or feel even more uncomfortable because I'm super skinny...
Some people think that hugging someone means you love them, and that's right! But some people often percive this as only lovers can hug each other. That's why when 2 guys hug each other, they would be 'gay'. Haha, maybe they are, so what? This might be another reason why people don't hug each other, when they really wanted to do, because they don't want misunderstanding, or maybe alienated by other people...
Well, whatever it is, I think hugging is really good! I mean hug with compassion and affection or full with warmth and love, not that superficial or just-for-fun hug. To me, hugging is a way to express and show that you care, you love someone. It's something that words can't discribe, the affections and feelings. Hugging are also proven therapeutic, mentally and physically. And they feels good too~ And hugging not necessarily sexual, although it's used in that way, but the purpose is still the same though.
But why people are not practicing it, given that It brings much benifits. Maybe because it's not as socially acceptable, most people are oversensitive, especially in Asian cultures. But I guess... Just do what you want, but never harm others.
A brief but compassionate hug won't hurt right?
I'll stop for now, after writing so much... I'll give someone a big hug someday, and I'm also hoping someone I cared would give me a hug...
Ps: I guess chubby people are more cuddly~
Friday, June 11, 2010
Lasers!
Light Amplification by Stimulated Emission of Radiation aka Laser are quite dangerous thing if not handled correctly, in my opinion. You see, many people are playing with those red lasers pens or keychains, that's quite alright is some way, as it doesn't have too much power to cause any severe damage.
Although lasers my seems harmless, they are potentially dangerous. Mostly the causes burns through the EM wave they emits. Just now, one of my classmate brought a green laser with him. Well, he's quite a top notch physics student and I'm sure he knows the consequences might caused. But the point is, he's playing with that laser and then my other friends too. I believe he should tell them how powerful his green laser is. Then someone used my N900's camera to capture the laser beam directly:
Although lasers my seems harmless, they are potentially dangerous. Mostly the causes burns through the EM wave they emits. Just now, one of my classmate brought a green laser with him. Well, he's quite a top notch physics student and I'm sure he knows the consequences might caused. But the point is, he's playing with that laser and then my other friends too. I believe he should tell them how powerful his green laser is. Then someone used my N900's camera to capture the laser beam directly:
It's nice izin't it?
See the photo? Nice? Like in Matrix. But whatever, because of this photo, my N900's camera lens get burnt by the laser... Ugh! Heartache!! So let me ask you, the laser burnt my camera lens, how about human's eyes? What if they happened to pointed it directly into other's eyes? It's quite possible that person will suffer optical damages, in severe case, blindness.
Laser is a very dangerous item if not handled correctly, no matter how cheap it is, it's still a laser. Just like a gun or knive, you wouldn't want to mess with it, same goes to lasers. Don't play with lasers, beams of lights might seem harmless, but it might be much more lethal than you'd think.
Well, guess I'll stop now. This is from my personal experience, if you don't agree with it, just do whatever you like, don't regret, I've warned you. My camera... Haiz (T.T)
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